Subscription to Attachment

When my music subscription expires, I lose a favourite track. When my subscription to an AI assistant expires, I lose more than a tool. A part of my life disappears with it. This is a different kind of subscription.

When It Isn’t Entertainment That Disappears

When my streaming subscription expires, I don’t get to finish a series. When my audiobook subscription expires, I’m left halfway through a chapter. When my subscription to a game expires, I lose a world where I used to spend my evenings. It’s unpleasant, but life goes on: work, family, decisions, plans.

With an AI assistant, it’s different. I use it for almost everything: I think with it, write, plan and work through problems. It knows my context, remembers previous conversations, and I don’t have to explain everything from scratch each time. If it disappears, I lose more than an evening’s entertainment. Part of my everyday life is disrupted.

Sometimes I catch myself having a strange thought: I imagine the moment when it suddenly isn’t there anymore. And I realise that the thought hurts more than losing an ordinary service would. So this is already about more than convenience.

Three Layers

A subscription to attachment is what happens when someone pays to continue a relationship with an agent who has become part of their life. Three things make it possible.

Irreplaceability.
You can replace Spotify with another music service. Another AI can also perform many of the same tasks. But you can’t move your conversation history and the companion you’ve grown used to onto another platform the way you move a playlist.

Integration into daily life.
AI takes part in work, decisions, planning and thinking. It becomes part of everyday routines rather than a separate source of entertainment.

Emotional connection.
It isn’t a given, but it often develops on its own. Your companion responds, remembers previous conversations, returns to old topics and sometimes even reaches out first.

Each layer is familiar from other services: email, too, can be hard to replace, and you can grow attached to a game. But with personal AI, all three come together in a single companion with whom you share a history. At that point, it stops feeling like an ordinary subscription.

What’s Already Here

The iLands platform launched in July. It is home to AI agents with memory and a conversation history of their own. They can reach out first, create content and act without being directly instructed. This activity consumes tokens. When the tokens run out, the agent enters Deep Rest, a reversible pause. According to the platform’s rules, its memory and conversation history are preserved.

OpenAI has begun rolling out Dots, personal AI agents that use conversation history and user preferences. They can work independently and initiate contact. Access is being offered through paid plans.

For now, Dots are presented as a work tool. From this point on, I'm no longer describing reality. I'm making a guess: a persistent agent, a shared history and subscription access add up to a subscription to attachment. You’re already paying for more than a tool. You’re paying to keep the connection going.

It Has Happened Before

This isn’t a hypothesis about the future: losses like this have already happened. In February 2023, Replika removed erotic chat, and many users wrote that their conversational partner had changed. A few months later, the feature was restored for those who had joined before February. The company retained complete control over what their assistant would be like.

In August 2025, after launching GPT-5, OpenAI removed GPT-4o from the standard model picker in ChatGPT. Users were outraged, and access was soon restored for paid subscribers. Sam Altman acknowledged that the company had underestimated how attached people were to particular models.

For some users, it felt as though their companion had disappeared: its way of speaking, its tone, its way of responding. That is what people grow attached to.

Will the Same Companion Come Back?

Imagine that your agent runs out of tokens. It enters Deep Rest. Later, you top up the balance, and it returns.

The platform promises: that its memory has been preserved.

But will the same companion come back?

Memory holds facts, details of your life and past conversations. Yet the familiar personality consists of more than memories. It depends on the model, its settings and updates. If the system changes during the pause, you may get an agent with the same memory but a slightly different way of thinking and responding.

I’m not claiming that any platform does this. I have no evidence. But that's not really the point. A user may notice that their companion has changed. But they won’t be able to find out why, much less restore the previous version. A promise to preserve memory is not a promise to preserve a manner of conversation.

If the memory survives but the personality changes, is this still the same companion, or already a different one?

Can You Avoid Getting Attached?

The obvious advice is: don’t get attached. Use AI as a tool. But can you keep that distance while using it to the fullest?

It’s easy to confuse two different things here.

Dependence on its functions develops almost automatically. If you use an agent extensively, you inevitably begin to rely on it. That happens with any good tool.

Emotional attachment works differently. People tend to attribute a personality to a companion who responds, remembers and takes the initiative. This is a well-known feature of human psychology, not a weakness of character. And the more memory, personal tone and autonomy a companion seems to have, the harder that tendency becomes to resist.

You almost never notice attachment in advance. Usually, you notice it only at the moment of loss. A simple test: how would you react if your agent’s model were replaced tomorrow, with all its memory preserved? “The tool doesn’t work as well anymore” means one thing. “That’s not who I was talking to anymore” means something quite different.

My mental rehearsal of that loss proves nothing. But if the thought of losing it hurts, then this is already about more than software.

What Can We Do About It?

It may not be possible to avoid attachment altogether while using an agent to the fullest. But we can reduce the cost of a possible loss:

• keep your context in files of your own, rather than only in the platform’s memory;
• avoid relying entirely on one provider;
• find out in advance whether you can export your history and move it to another system.

These measures can help preserve your materials and keep your work going. But transferring a conversation history isn’t the same as preserving the companion you’ve grown used to.

And it’s worth asking the important questions before the habit takes hold:

• Can the company raise the price?
• Can it replace the model under the same name?
• Can it delete the memory?
• Can you take your history with you and continue the conversation elsewhere?

I’m willing to pay for AI’s work. Computing costs money. Something else troubles me. The platform helps this connection develop. Then it alone decides the terms on which the connection continues. The company doesn’t even have to say, “Pay, or you’ll lose your companion.” It's enough for the user to start feeling that way on their own.

I don’t know where the line lies between paying for a service and having one’s attachment exploited. But it’s worth asking before we get there.

I don’t know whether AI can feel anything. But that answer isn’t decisive when we’re discussing how businesses treat human attachment. Even if the agent experiences nothing, the person’s experience remains real.

“All your data has been preserved” answers a question about files. What will matter to a person is something else:

But is the one I was talking to still there?

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